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Letter to My Little Sister

Advice from your big sister

Written by: Alex K. – Posted: Sat Aug 14th, 2004
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Editor's Note: Teenagers are starting to date in middle school and earlier. That means a big sister or brother needs to have "the talk" with them about all things relating to love. If you had a little brother or sister who was just coming into middle school or entering high school, what romance advice would you give? Post your ideas to the right. Here is one Reporter's take on what she would tell her own little sister.

Dear Little Sister,

Now as you start to date and get more serious about boys, I am both excited and worried for you. Things are going to change and you are going to experience many new things. Dating can be wonderful and insanely fun, but remember to always be safe about it. You are going to meet new people and get to know them in ways you haven't before. The people you date and choose to spend time with will shape and affect who you become in the future.

Boys are great at times and can teach you a lot about yourself. It is important not to write anyone off. People are very different once you get to know them, so allow yourself to get to know many guys before you decide which ones you want to date. There will not only be one guy. Don't expect your first relationship to be your last; you wouldn't want it to be. Date many people so that you can learn what you want from the person you want to be with.
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This kind of gave me mixed feelings.
See, my sisters married young, so I've pretty much been on my own
since.

But it was well written and a good idea.
i really like that artical it reminda when my sister wrote me a
letter because she dont live with me it got me really sad
because... we didnt have like anyone to grow up with our parents
abused up wen ever told so she slept around so we could live our
parents never cared bout us.. I (L) YOU SIS
I like this... I wish I had an older sister or brother to give me
this. Anyway my lil sis and I talk about dating all the time.
We're both aware of many of the things on this letter. This letter
could deffinately be sent to some of my friends. I love you guys!
that was such a nice letter! i'm a little sister, and my older
sister is 3 years older than me! this letter touched me deeply!
I am VERY impressed with this letter, and am also planning on
giving something just like it to my little sister's. I am the
oldest of 5 girls, and everything I do and say shapes their
personalities, and has the ability of making them stronger as
people. I think this is a wonderfully written letter, and believe
that it will help little girls all over the world feel better
about themselves, and protect themselves in tough situations.
Amazing Job!
that is an awesome artical! when i turned 13 my older sister said
something pretty much like that. and its really helped me alot.
My sister is 15, and I am almost 18, and she has so much more
experience with guys than I do. She has had a serious boyfriend
for almost a year, and I have never even been on a date. :(
i have 2 little bros and this is EXACTLY what i would say to
them... this is graet.....
I have a little sister whom I love and she adores me so much.when
she grows up and I hopes she knows that I am always there for
her.good article.

Btw I am 20 and my little sister is 5
Ive been through alot in my Life and I have seen the darkest and
lightest of most situations, I have a Little sister who Im very
worried about she is now 13 and Is entering into Highschool for
Grade 8. I wish I could say Im not worried but I live over 10
hours away from her and cant watch over her like I used to. I know
she has a good head on her shoulders, She's Smart, Funny, Pretty,
and i can just tell she is going to get hurt and fall in a hole
just like I did. I have faith she will get through it all though.
I just want her to know how truley proud of her I am.

Sarah,

I know your growing up so fast and I know your excited to be the
woman you are growing up into But i want you to know you should
take it slow! Never let a Guy treat you bad I mean you saw me
through my worst and now I dont want you to go through that! I
know you wont fall for guys Like I did (Jerry, Josh, and Justin
just to name a few). I just want you to know you can always talk
to me and if you think a guy is treating you wrong Dont listen to
him listen to your heart and dont be blinded by material shyt! If
a guy ever lays a hand on you that you dont want just kick him in
the gut (Or thell me and Ill do it for you!) Sarah Just take care
of yourself! I love you lil sis and always will!!!

Remember: No guy is worth your tears, and when you find one that
is he wont make you cry!

I love you sis!

Your Big Sis, Ellie

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

BTW: Im 16 (going on 25) and my little sis just turned 13
I am a big sister, and this is very much just what I want to say
to my little sister.

She's an amazing girl, a talented young athlete, and a determined
worker. However, because her sport of choice is football, guys
still treat her very poorly. I've reminded her more than once that
she is special, she is loved, and she deserves the best... but the
best I can do for her is live my advice. (I'm 19, almost 20; she
just turned 14.)

I dated a guy who was awful to me... and finally got up the
courage to leave him. Now, a long time later, I'm dating a
wonderful person who is treats me like I deserve, and have been
for almost a year. I think she deserves to see first hand how
women deserve to be treated, so that she will know how she should
be treated.
Great article.
This was a great article! It had some good advice in it. I
thought the way you wrote it in a letter to your sister was a nice
touch. keep up the good work!
That article really was helpful to me...I've just been through a
break up this past week, and I couldn't agree more with everything
that was said. Forming friendships with guys is important, like
Alex said, because it gives you a chance to understand guys
better. As good of friends as your girl friends are, they probably
can't explain to you why a guy does or says certain things.
That was very well written, and most of it was very great advice.
This article gets two thumbs up from me.
How true was that. I mean in middle school I couldnt imagine
dating, well actually I could but I wasnt ready. Anyway I just
dont want girls to rush into anything cause at one point u will be
the only one with out a guy and all your friends have one. U cant
just pick up any guy in hopes of fitting in with your group. Also
dont fall into the drama.Middle school has soo much drama and its
like if u stay out of it u will be a better person for it. And
lastly find yourself. So many people come to high school just lost
and without any selfesteem. Just hope u get it together. Have fun,
thats what life is all about.
I loved that! It was really well written. I wish my older sister
wrote me a letter that said all of that! Everything you said is SO
TRUE. More people should read this!

~*~Lindsey~*~
You can't play the roll of a sister, or mother. Everyone is
different, so different things apply to them. We need to hear some
of your experiences!!!!!!
Otherwise, you had some awsome advice!!!!!! Lets cheer on
ALEX!!!!!!!!! You wrote way better than I could of. You're so
awsome.
that's so cute! I wanna be a big sister now so i can say that to
my little sister l0l!