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Turn Offs in Relationships

Deal breakers and minor misdemeanors

Written by: Alex K. – Posted: Tue Nov 22nd, 2005
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Minor turn offs

Not calling when they say they're are going to: Completely cliched, but true. If you partner says they're going to call, then they should. Tell your partner that if they find they don't have time to call, you'll completely understand--they just need to let you know!

Not telling their friends--particularly those of the opposite sex--that you are dating: Your partner should be proud of you! Don't let them act like they're ashamed!

Not picking up the bill some of the time: Of course, your partner may not have a job, or struggle with money, but it's always nice when they save up and pay for dinner once in a while.

Not taking you out: The couch in the basement is nice, but so are restaurants and movie theaters!

Having a beard: This is debatable, but most guys wouldn't want to kiss a girl with a beard or hairy legs, so have some consideration when that goatee gets a bit out of control!

Of course, everybody has their own turn offs; these are just some of the most popular. If there is something that your boyfriend or girlfriend does that is on your turn off list, talk to them and see if they can change. If they can't, then you either have to compromise or find someone else.

What are some of your biggest turn offs? Post answers to the right!
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i smoke. my boyfriend smokes. my friends smoke. my dad smokes.
it's not a deal breaker for me
smokings gross and all, but my best friend smokes, my bf smokes,
both like freakn chimneys, and i just have to accept it. doesnt
mean i have to be around it, but im used to it i guess.
is smoking really an issue...get over it...Im sure you all have
nasty habits that noone knows about that may be a total turn
off..im a smoker so it dont bother me
the only thing you can do is be honest with him....he may not
understand but he'll be alright....either that just tell him you
had plans when he shows up.....if you two are friends then i
wouldnt be mean or too honest but it sounds like you dont want him
around so no sense in beating around the bush....tell him
another thing that is a turn off in a realationship if the person
you are with constantly talks about other women and compares your
relationship to the relationship of others if he respects you to
the fullest then its not going to matter about what other people
are doing
Smoking is a major deal breaker for me. So is drug use. Drinking
is a deal breaker for me that isn't for most people (but then, I
don't drink even though I'll be old enough in 6 days, so I suppose
that's fair).

Another issue for me is violence. Any guy who gets physical with
me is gone, but I find it unacceptable for guys to be violent with
other people too.
Ok, I am kind of against a lot of the ones on the second page.

Calling- Sometimes something comes up that makes you unable to
call, or you can forget... not anything to throw a fit over.

Not telling their friends- This is something that I don't
understand at all. Just because I'm dating someone, it doesn't
mean I should have to make an anoucement over it. I never tell my
friends if I'm dating someone or not, frankly it's none of their
business. As long as they aren't hitting on their friends it's
just fine with me if they don't say anything.

I don't know, but I think that those are kind of questionable
reasons to complain.

One that should have been up there is smelling. That's a major
turn off for a lot of people.
let see there are lots of stuff you shouldn't d owehen you are
dating but most of all is cheating if you want to screw around
have an open-realtionship
I cannot stand a guy that stinks. My ex for example, he still
comes around but I don't want to be mean and tell him to buz off,
does any1 know what to do :(
and apparently, that italics code didn't work! i've myspace'd too
long
because for many people, it <i>is</i> a deal breaker. but, i also
think just because someone smokes you shouldn't date them-- when
my boyfriend and i started dating, i smoked and he didn't, but
when i decided to quit, it was so much easier because he didn't
smoke!
well i think it was good because it was a great because becase
someone like me can relate to all of them
actually i'd kind of prefer if my guy is a smoker... you may think
thats crazy but i smoke too... (definantly not a deal breaker...)
Meh i dont think this was a very good article...
Being fifteen, my boyfriend doesn't have a major problem with
facial hair yet, but I absolutely can't stand it. Good on some
people... most people it's a turn off. He's so sweet though, he
always shaves right before I come over so that he's nice and
smooth ^_^
I don't think smoking should have been listed as a deal breaker
either.
I don't think smoking should have been put in here. It was a
dealbreaker for me, but I don't think it is for most people. I
just have extremely severe asthma.

Good article overall though!
i don't see smoking as a deal-breaker. sure, it's not healthy & i
prefer my fiancé didn't do it... but i love him & he is an adult
who is capable of making his own decisions.