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In This Issue » Life & Love » Friends vs Boy/Girlfriends

Friends vs Boy/Girlfriends

What to do if there are rifts between partners and friends

Written by: Alex K. – Posted: Tue Nov 22nd, 2005

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It's hard to deal with if your girlfriend or boyfriend's friends don't like you, because you may feel out of place around them. You don't have to be best friends with your s/o's group, but you should make an effort to be nice. Their friends might even start to miss you when you aren't there--though you probably shouldn't hold your breath! If the relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend goes further, you may see more of their friends. So, if there's a problem in that area, then suggest that your significant other talks to their friends about it.

If nothing works, then you have to make sure that you and your partner can work through that. Try doing things away from his or her friends, but remember; it could cause resentment if he never gets to see his friend because of it.

Keep in mind that just because your friends don't like your new partner doesn't mean you can't. Also, just because his/her friends don't like you doesn't mean that s/he doesn't care about you. Don't let friends get in the way of a good relationship.

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malgal33

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my bf and my bestest friend always figjht with each other over the
phone (we like 2 do a three way)and it gets so old!! UGH

Posted 04/18/08

sexybabe92

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she saids that she dont like him but i do so should i stay with or
dont i reaaly like him he is nice to me

Posted 02/04/07

bad_kitty1
31

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My bf hates my friends and my friends hate me bf. They say hes a
jerk and he says their annoying and dont know anything about our
relation ship. I dont know what to do, but now my bf doesnt want
to come to my b-day because my friends are gonna be there. What do
i do?

Posted 05/29/06

sugar_girl
ie12

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I wish this article was around when me and my ex were fighting. He
broke up with me basically because his friends said to. And they
didn't like me because I gave off a bad first impression. I
complained about them not even giving me another chance to redeem
myself, and then after we broke up told him that they were a bunch
of nerds anyways, and I don't want to ever see any of them again
lol.

Posted 05/02/06

karate_gir
l_66

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alot of times your friends can see things in a boy (or girl) that
u cant because ur so wrapped up that u may not notice if they r
just useing you or if they truly love u so it always pays off to
listen to ur good friends about things like bfs or gfs....thats my
opinion...

Posted 04/15/06

iam2cute4u
_55

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my parents dont trust me and my bf so we always have to have
someone with us!! it sucks but its the only way we can get
together!! help! how can we get together just the two of us?

Posted 04/07/06

bigbutt5

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My response to this conversation is. If your friend is truly a
friend then she/he won't care who your other partner is. As long
as it makes you happy that is all that matters. And if for some
reason they don't get along just try to mend what ever is broken.

Posted 04/04/06

Aaron_Babe
_XO

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My bff;s boyfriend is such a jerk but she says she doesnt care

Posted 04/01/06

PlayBoyBun
ny_16

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Hey Marlenie9 Well if the other guy is your ex tell him you can't
go out with im now. Then try like 2 or 3 other guys then if they
aren't good take your ex back! Or pick witch one to you is the
best! Ok well good Luck bye

Posted 03/29/06

iam2cute4u
_55

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i am dating this guy that is three years older than me and its
hard because he goes to a different school than me. i see him on
the weekends but still, you know wut i mean! what can we do on the
weekends?

Posted 03/28/06

Dirtyred1

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Thatz wat wrong wit females now they have too many problems

Posted 03/26/06

emo_luv

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in all honesty a tru friend wuldn't mind giving up time for u to
be w/ ur boyfriend b/c they know that even if ur preoccupies u'll
allways be there.
i've blown off my best friend to be w/ my boyfriend and we're
still attached at the hip. (meaning me and my friend are attached
at the hip..not me and by bf).
i mean..blowing off ppl in general isn't cool, but a good friend
that u shuld keep wuld and is more understanding about being set
aside so u can spend time w/ a guy.
afterall...even when that guy is gone ur friend is still there. if
they're not..then they weren't that good of a friend.

Posted 03/24/06

marlenie9

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I started talking to this guy that really like me, but my ex
boyfriend came back to the picture. What should I do???

Posted 03/23/06

Dancer4uAn
gel27

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I honestly would give anything up for my boyfriend.. But he isn't
the same way which pissed me off.. we don't attend the same
school.. So i see him mayb twice a week/end if i'm luck.. The
other times he's working or with his friends.. I don't want to be
rude and invite myself over.. So i just suck it up and hang out
with my girls.

Posted 03/23/06

prettyeyes
11

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so are you a boy or not well write back.

Posted 03/22/06

La_nena_li
nda

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i HAD this one friend that was like my bff and she asked me if i
would get mad if she went out with this boy ive been crushing on
since like last yr and i said maybe and i dont even know y but now
were not talking bcuz shes always tryna make me jelous

Posted 03/22/06

krisygirl9

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well MY friend & my exboyfriend are the exact opposite, supposedly
the whole yr and a half me n him were together... THEY WERE IN
LOVE.. so yeah, what do i do when i get FUcKED over bc they like
eachother too much?

Posted 03/21/06

davidsgrl1
23

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all my friends hated him then i started dateing him now they all
say that hes so cool well most of them do the other ones are
allways makeing fun of him and it really agervates me
my best friend brook hates it when we talk she says its a waist of
my time and she thinks hes ok but he likes and said hes go out
with her and is always flurting with her she doesnt flurt back but
he still anoyes me with it

Posted 03/20/06

melodyblue

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My best friend in the whole wide world thinks that my boyfriend is
a jerk and treats me horrible. However, he doesn't... I only vent
to her when he's upset me... which isn't very often. I don't know
how to get her to see it my way. My boyfriend, however, thinks
that my best friend is great.

Posted 03/20/06

codylover8
5

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My best friend is in a serious relationship and since they have
been together we havent been as close but it doesnt make me
jealous because I know that she is having fun with him. I am happy
for her and who would I be if I didnt want her to be with him?
Yeah we might not get along or something but if I make it a deal
that is causing problems for her abd I dont want to do that to
her. I am in a happy relationship just like her and we hang out as
couples. I talk to her when I am having problems and she does to
but we NEVER tell eachother something that would hurt one another
like you dont need him or just get rid of him. Thats not our right
to say that. I listen to her problems and give her advice not
commands.

Posted 03/20/06

marlenie9

Friend Note

I was in love with this guy that didn't no how to treat me right.
I use to put him before anything, but I use to always be the 2nd
one in his list.He means a lot to me, well he did. But one thing
that I learned was that don't put your boyfriend first then your
friends. That is one mistake that I did, and I learned from it,
but the hard way.But one thing that he will never understand is
how much he meant to me once.

Posted 03/17/06

Jorgeswoma
n

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Right now there's a problem between my friends and my guy. I guess
I should do something but I don't know what to do. I'll never pick
one over the other. Who knows maybe I'm just a crazy chick in
love.

Posted 03/14/06

noname88

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rules were made to be broken :-p

Posted 03/14/06

kiki151617

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Dont let friends get in the way of a good relatioship? This
article was completley condricting itself. Its like an unwritten
rule: Friends before boyfriends. Friends are the people who sit
there and listen to you cry because your boyfriend ditched you one
night or because he was talking to another girl. Does your
boyfriend sit there and listen to you be upset when your in a
fight with your best friend? I had a best friend who I recently
lost because of her relation ship. Her boyfriend always cheated on
her and I tried time and time again to tell her and she believed
him over me everytime and she always went crawling back to him.
Just last night she told me that since she has known her boyfriend
longer she has no problem losing me as a friend. Me and her
boyfriend have never gotten along and of course he gave her an
ultimatum in saying either she drops me as a friend or he would
break up with her.

Im not saying that your friends should choose who you go out with
but when your boyfriend is trying to control every aspect of your
life and telling you who to be friends with I think that you might
want to listen to your real friends and understand that they are
telling you what they know not to hurt you but to protect you.

Posted 03/11/06

Weaver1829

Friend Note

Its diff for everyone My boyfriend friend hates me and thats
because he won't jump when he wants him to anymore becasue hes not
the only one in his life anymore. This guys is 29.

Posted 03/09/06

taken1234

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I will always choose my friends before any boyfriends, because in
the long run, your friends are going to have your back!!!

Posted 03/08/06

Kinkbe

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Bros before Hoes, and Chicks before Dicks! You always put your
friends before your lovers, because in the long wrong, your
friends are the ones that will ALWAYS be there for you... If your
friends don't like your boyfriend, try and respect their
reasoning.... I just ended a 4 year relationship, and the entire
time all of my friends hated him, and they used to tell me so, but
i would always defend him.. Try to honestly listen to your
friends, because you may be in denial and not see what others
see...

Posted 03/08/06

BASHFUL15

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I have a friend who has done that onces she started dating this
guy she we dont talk anymore like we use to .

Posted 03/08/06

jencl87

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i was friends with my boyfriend before i went out with him.

also, from past experiences, friends aren't always the best people
to decide on your bf/gf. it's what you think of the person. in the
end it's you who's going to be with this person not your friends.
and if your friends can't see that, then they aren't really your
friends to begin with.

if my friends dont like my boyfriend, then they aren't my friends.

(this is regards to the nice guys, not the jerks who cheat on
their gfs n what not)

Posted 03/06/06

bxplaya123
4

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if you think your man or girl is cheating on you see how he act
with you

Posted 03/03/06

marlenie9

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I like this guy that is no longer with his girlfriend, I want to
ask him out but I talk to his ex girlfriend, I don't no if she
still has feelings for him. "What should I do"?

Posted 03/02/06

Briansgirl
05

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My best friend Brian hated both of my boyfriends because they both
treated me like shit and brian didn't want to see me get hurt
which was true and they both were asses.Friends come before a guy
or girl.

Posted 03/01/06

Fairy_Dust
13

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im in love with my b/f but...he still has feelings or is not
"over" his ex...and still calls her n tells her he loves her...but
tells me that he does love me and wants to be w/ me n not her but
i just dont know? wat should i do?

Posted 03/01/06

suga13na

Friend Note

guys/girls come and go but your friends will stick by you no
matter what, through many more guys/girls... your friends only
want the best for you, so i totally believe in sticking by your
friends

Posted 03/01/06

idowhatiam
told

Friend Note

i am in love with rachel mcadams and she doesnt even know i exist!
hahahaha

Posted 02/27/06

marlenie9

Friend Note

I m in love with a guy that acts like an ass with me, and doesn't
no how to appriciate all the things I have done for him. What
should I do????????????

Posted 02/26/06

ptigroup

Friend Note

depedro is here
who care talking to me

Posted 02/24/06

Harris1

Friend Note

hey Whats good

Posted 02/24/06

africanchi
ck

Friend Note

my friends think im gay just because i dont have a boyfriend . my
friend think i need a boyfriend but now i cant please my friends
or say im gay because im not what should i do

Posted 02/23/06

kingsley42

Friend Note

am in love wit someone i told her to give some money but she
refuse is that bad

Posted 02/22/06

tyshan

Friend Note

I must say that I truely dont like my friends boyfriend. He tried
to cheat on her and probably has in the past and he gets upset
with her over stupid stuff. She is so blinded by sex that she
doesnt even see all the crap he puts her through. It was a group
of 4 of us, and now we are all broken and it all started with her
boyfriend. She did ditch us for him but this wouldnt be a problem
had he been a good guy. This guy is a gerk and treats my friend
with alot less respect than she deserves. I guess until she gets
sick of taking his crap, we wont be talking to her anytime soon.
That is the part that really sucks because i really miss my friend
that I used to talk to everyday.

Posted 02/21/06

BabyGiggle
z4201

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ok so I've been friends with this guy and I finally ffell in love
with him..Is that bad. I don't want to mess things up between us
but i don't want to rush them either.

Posted 02/19/06

XxXRaeRaeX
xX

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I have been best friends with a guy for a little over 2 years. We
had so much in common..Same birthday same year..WE liked the same
stuff, we hung out all the time..Finally about 4 months ago we
decided to try a relationship together..It only lasted 3 weeks..We
broke it off because we felt uncomfortable.. WE still are the best
of friends but its just hard to do sumthing like that...knowing
there was something there before...anyways....thats kinda off
subject..but yeah...right now..

My friends dont like the guy ive been with for 2 months...I dont
know what to do..ive tried what this article says..They dont even
know him..>And there reasons..are his appearance and how they
think he acts..i dont know..im confused

Posted 02/19/06

rachetgirl

Friend Note

i think it is sad that people leave u out of eveything even if
have a girlfriend or boyfriend.....

Posted 02/14/06

sweetheat2
01

Friend Note

i think that you should first try and get them to be freinds and
if that doesn't work then just spend time with them seperatly. you
shouldn't have to choose

Posted 02/14/06

spi_cy13

Friend Note

Ever since I broke up with my boyfriend, my friends have been
hating my best friend (whom they all think that I hooked up with
after the breakup) and me just because I broke up with my
boyfriend. They just need to piss off! :)

Posted 02/11/06

SaNiTaRiUm

Friend Note

It's important to get feedback from your friends about your
significant other because they see things you won't. Especially
the important things.

I've been on both sides of the spectrum. My best friend hated an
ex of mine, and in the end the relationship just got worse and
worse. She saw what I didn't. Right now I've got a friend in a
relationship that's taking over him... but he doesn't listen to
his friends. It's sad.

Posted 02/07/06

tailwhip

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Posted 02/07/06

nathanxxx

Friend Note

Hey yall im lookin for more friends and possibly a
relationship..so write me a note if your interested.

Posted 02/04/06

tina234

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okay boys are so gay. i am frends wit a lot of bi people. they r
nice. because they give you hugs when you need one. but my boy
frend only wants me for sex. tap-tap

Posted 02/03/06