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Pre-Teen Dating Bloopers

Common mistakes most girls make

Written by: Jenna L., Assocaite Editor – Posted: Fri Aug 25th, 2006

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One of the most exciting things about growing up is entering the dating world. Whether the experiences were good or bad, most people will always remember all sorts of relationship firsts in their lives. High school is the time when most young people start seriously getting interested in the idea of having a significant other--for some people, it even starts in middle school. Now, think back to your first relationships. Were there moves you made that now leave you to wonder where your brain was at the time? Here is a list of some of the most common errors made with pre-teens and first boyfriends.

Ditching your friends for your boyfriend
When you first start getting into the dating scene, it is very easy to become horrible at managing priorities and time with people. When it's your very first boyfriend, you feel like you need to spend every second possible together, which causes you to blow off your friends. It's not that you stop caring about your friends, it's the fact that you don't want to take any chances with your new beau. Eventually, you do realize that your boyfriend does not have to be at your side 24/7. Also, you do not need permission from your s/o to spend time with your friends.

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Whitney23

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i agree! I have friends that think they are in love everytime they
date someone new! its kills me bc you dont love everyone you date.
i believe that i have been in love once and now im scared of it so
i steer clear of that word...

Posted 05/21/07

demzie

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ditching your mates for a lad is way out of order a relationship
lasts how long it lats your friends are for life ..i have never
really dun that maybe i let them down couple times but never
totally ditched

Posted 03/05/07

juicy519

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xojuicyxo totally knows what she is talking about she is so smart
i totally agree and i love the screen name =]

Posted 02/10/07

mis_rude

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boy think they so nice but there no like think the buff and cut

Posted 02/09/07

lisagibson
_

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I'd definintely have to agree.

And the one thing that I've always been bothored by, is when
people start dating someone, & right away say they are in love
with them. It gets thrown around way too loosely, & it kind of
sucks.

Meh.

Posted 02/04/07

xojuicyxo

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i used to do that with my old b/f but friends are way more
important they don't dump you or act different around friends

Posted 02/01/07

deans_gal2
007

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i thinki this is true and we do ditch our friends for our
boyfriends but sometimes it is worth it if it is the one we are
gonna be with for the rest of our lives

Posted 01/27/07

pimpadamp

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17 0r 18

Posted 01/24/07

pimpadamp

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I agree

Posted 01/24/07

juicy_appl
es

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i think teens should be dating who cares if their not mature some
teens are 17 and older and they still havent matured...i do agree
that teens should not be having sex its against my religion and
its just wrong...why would you riun your life at the time where
you can be having the most fun...think about it!!!

Posted 01/23/07

diva_cutie

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I don't really see a problem with preteens dating. Who cares if
they think they're in love after 2 weeks and then 2 weeks later,
they're dating somebody else? As long as they're not being overly
physical I see no harm in it. It's all fun and games when you're
younger anyway. Half the time middle school dating is saying hi to
each other at school and sitting together at lunch.

Posted 01/23/07

Lindsey123

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Ok, I'm sorry no one under the age of 17 or 18 should be dating.
Teens in highschool do not have the maturity to handle a
relationship.

Posted 01/22/07

chickenGD

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A lot of people before high school are defidently NOT ready for
any relationship of that matter. They are way too young and they
need to be a kid, dating makes them grow up faster because they
think that they are older.

And I think that may be the huge problem in my town. There are SO
many teen pregnancies, and some are before they even get into
highschool! Its ridiculous. Its almost like no one has any respect
for themselves. But honestly, what parents let their kids do
something so drastic at such a young age?

Posted 01/22/07

socKerStar

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nice article but the comments are not very thought out if u ask
me... they are also sorta mean ... im a younger girl who has dated
... and ppl dating young arent thinking Ohhh im gonna marry him
... there are few who believe the guy they are with is the guy
they want to marry. And the reson for going out is mainly for fun,
if u really like someone u "usually" know it and going out with
them is fun, i mean shouldnt it be ? , Yeah a lot of ppl my age
end up breaking up after a month (not me though,it deffinately
lasts longer) but for the time ur with them its still fun and
exciting.

-SocKerStar

Posted 01/22/07

flabeachbu
m

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sorry but in my mind if ur in middle school, no dating, ur def not
mature enough. in high school i even find it risky untill perhaps
ur an upperclassman and dont have to have your parents drive you
to and from you bf/gf. Its kind of pathetic if you think about it.
adn friends with benefits in MIDDLE SCHOOL hell and high school
too?!?! that is just messed up, seriously i am definently against
the procreation of stupid babies from preteens...dont get me
wrong, they shoudl def be learing about sex and how to protect
themselves from STI's and what not, but while in middle school i
think they should preach a little more abstinance, not for the
childs health but for their soon to be screwed up baby.

Posted 01/21/07

spi_cy13

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Well, for the most part, this article is so true. I kind of wonder
why pre-teens are dating in the first place. They need to wait a
little longer...like until they are 16!

Posted 01/21/07

LLaMa_MaMM
a

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pre-teen dating? why the hell should a pre-teen be dating? I feel
like I have to vomit.

Posted 01/19/07

Ashley1314

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I think a big mistake girls make is thinking "OMG, this is the guy
I'm going to marry/be with for the rest of my life!!!" So, they
put up with a lot of nonsense. Which is just nonsense in itself.

Honestly, once you get out of high school, you don't keep in touch
with most of people you knew. They go to college, or move away and
get jobs, or whatever. It's difficult to keep relationships strong
with so much distance between them. How many people actually marry
their high school sweethearts? Look a few years ahead and ask how
many of them are still together? It's happened, sure, and that's
great, but it's the exception, not the rule. Sharing a
relationship like that with someone takes a degree of maturity
that some full-grown adults lack, let alone teenagers/pre-teens.

Dating at such a young age is not the same as dating in the real
world. And in middle school? Most guys haven't even fully hit
puberty yet, physically or mentally! Realize that having a
boyfriend is not the peak of your life. Breaking up is not the end
of it. You can't revolve your life around one person when you
barely have a full life to begin with. Build yourself up before
you trying giving yourself away to someone else.

~Ashley~

Posted 01/19/07

MegaStar84

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KareenaLynn, you shouldn't let anyone control you like that. One
of a few things will inevitably happen...you get so sick of him
telling you what you can and can't do that you'll build it up and
one day go psycho on him. Or you will start to feel worthless and
have no confidence in yourself and be miserable being with him.
You have to get out asap...no matter how long yo have been
together already...it's not too late.

Posted 01/19/07

KareenaLyn
n

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I let my boy friend tell me when i can and cant hangout with my
friends which turns out to be about never.
He thinks he always needs me around so he can "watch" me.
But we have been together 13months so it makes things really hard
to try and change now.=[

Posted 01/19/07

thirdcat_k
iko

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you may try reading "I Kissed Dating Goodbye."

Posted 01/19/07

harlequing
rl_x0

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I dated when I was a young teen (14/15) and it lasted about a
year. There are things that you can learn by dating somebody when
your younger, but, from my experience, sometimes it's better to
wait until your older. It really depends on the person and how
mature they are. Some of my friends didn't date until they were
about 17/18, and that was a personal choice. I started dating
young. But I know that I don't want my cousins to follow in my
footsteps because I know that they aren't mature enough to date.

and it's NEVER okay to see your friend with your ex. No matter
how old you are.

Posted 01/18/07

Lethal_mer
cy

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I can relate to the going out with someone multiple times. I still
haven't grown out of it even though I fully understand the reason
I brake up with the person. I mean the guy who I finally kicked
completely out of my life I had dated and broken up with 8 times!
For some reason I always got the idea that he had changed and
wasn't going to do the same thing again. Then he did and we broke
up over and over again. It's stupid pathetic, but I still miss him
a lot too.

Posted 01/17/07

MegaStar84

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Yeah I know people who didn't even start dating at all until they
were over 18, and they do fine. Don't worry about, "Oh but how
will people know how to deal with things if they don't start
young?" Honestly, dating isn't that big of a deal that you need to
start that young. There is no need to get used to the idea of
being with another person before age 16. Like I said, I know many
adults who have never had a significant other until they reached
adulthood, and they are fine. Dating isn't something that you
should force. It comes naturally.

There's nothing more useless and pointless than a 14 year old
running around worry about not having a significant other haha.

Posted 01/17/07

rum_bum

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yeah, this has happened to me. i lost all my friends because they
thought that i spent too much time with my boyfriend. and i
totally regretted it cuz when i broke up with him, i would sit at
my locker by myself cuz i lost all my friends.. it REALLY sucked!

Posted 01/17/07

DrPepprChi
ca

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your teen and pre-teen ages are for hanging out with your
friends!! leave dating alone until you're at least 16! c'mon,
you've got the rest of your life to date! besides, people are
getting married later in life these days, so what's wrong with
waiting a few years to start dating? trust me, after high school
you'll probably wish you'd had stronger friendships instead of a
big high school dating career!! just have fun, dating's too much
to worry about when you're young!

Posted 01/17/07

MegaStar84

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"Ever notice how the people who say, "they're too young" NEVER
EVER say that about something that refers to themselves?"

That's not true. I say I'm too young for a lot of things.

Posted 01/17/07

PinkAlienG
irl

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Ever notice how the people who say, "they're too young" NEVER EVER
say that about something that refers to themselves?

Nothing wrong with dating at a young age, IMO. If you can learn to
care about someone at an early age, that's great. And I think the
more experience you get at a young age, before your hormones are
overwhelming you, the less likely you are to make painful mistakes
when you're in high school.

Posted 01/17/07

radioactiv
ity

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Teen-dating is good, in my opinion, 'cause pre-teens will be able
to get used to the idea of being with another person -- if
everyone only started dating when they were adults, then it would
be anarchy.

About the "professing love after a few days": my current boyfriend
told me he loved me after only two weeks, and we've been together
for a year now, and he's still in love with me. Sometimes, it does
work out.

Posted 01/17/07

thirdcat_k
iko

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I'm never into teen nor adult dating. It just gives a wrong
impression because people are just faking. And most failed
marriages start with dating, not with friendship.

Posted 01/17/07

Elise_Mari
e

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"Until you are driving your own car, going out on real dates to
dinners and movies alone and paying for your own dates, it's just
puppy love."

I lol at that comment. I'm near 19; I can't drive nor do I have a
job xD

Anyways, I know a lot of people who STILL make these mistakes even
at my age- in my opinion it's not right to say that these kids
shouldn't date simply because they aren't of a certain age. In
elementary/middle school, everything you go through is a sort of
practice run for everything else, so why not dating too?

Posted 01/16/07

Rowdy_1

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I think pre-teens should date. Like the others said. And if you
believe that they shouldn't then how will they make mistakes and
learn from them.

Posted 01/16/07

MegaStar84

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"Well, for all of you people saying that "pre-teens shouldn't
date" or that "they're too young for this stuff", etc., how will
they ever learn or get any idea about dating without a little
trial and error?"

There's *plenty* of time for that in high school. Trust me, all
the time I spent thinking, talking about, and obsessing over buys
in middle school was a complete waste of time, well at least for
me it was.

At that age, your mind and emotions aren't developed enough to
understand love, sex, and relationships fully...the way they are
to be understood. It's like trying to explain the basics of sex to
a 3 year old...they just aren't ready yet.

Of course, knowledge in dating comes with experience and trial and
error, but I don't think that should even start until high school,
when you are at least a little more developed enough to handle
what love and dating is really all about.

Posted 01/16/07

Psycho_Bun
nyX

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By the way, nicely written article IMO.

Posted 01/16/07

Psycho_Bun
nyX

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Well, for all of you people saying that "pre-teens shouldn't date"
or that "they're too young for this stuff", etc., how will they
ever learn or get any idea about dating without a little trial and
error?

Posted 01/16/07

Dreamfaeri
e89

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ok middle school dating is the stupidest thing EVER.

Posted 01/16/07

Bjpchilds

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In my opinion, preteens shouldn't date. At all.

(or be on kiwibox; isn't it 13+?)

End.

Posted 01/16/07

broksbabyf
oreve

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I personally think that "pre-teens" are too young to be dating
anyways. They lack the maturity it takes to handle a healthy
relationship and balance it with the rest of their lives, which is
why they make these kinds of mistakes. Parents let their kids up
way too fast...

Posted 01/16/07

LauraNSync

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The really sad thing about this article is that I know tons of
people my age that still make these mistakes. That's a good 10
years or so after being a pre-teen, so you would think people
would learn, but they don't.

Posted 01/16/07

MegaStar84

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Middle schoolers shouldn't be dating at all. That's just too
young. I mean, I know that is the age where kids start to want to
date...and I think it's alright to have their little "kiddie
romances" as I like to call them, where they walk each other to
class, hold hands, and maybe talk on the phone every other
night...but I wouldn't even remotely put that in the same league
as adult dating. Until you are driving your own car, going out on
real dates to dinners and movies alone and paying for your own
dates, it's just puppy love.

Posted 01/15/07

stumpie

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"If at that age it doesn't hurt to see an ex with your best
friend, just wait until you get a little older. It can and will
very easily cause problems within both the friendships and the new
relationship. "

what? most people i know GOT OVER this when they were 14."

This quote directly says that if at the young age you are dating,
seeing an ex with your best friend doesn't hurt, when you are
OLDER it can and most likely will. Think, for example, your ex
husband ... or soon to be ex ... or the guy you dated for four
years ... whatever the guy is ... he's dating your best friend. I
think that could definitely hurt. Because it makes you think, all
this time, was he thinking of her too?? When you get older, you
think of these things a lot more. It's just never usually a good
thing, to just start dating your best friend's ex.

Posted 01/15/07

perin_cart
er

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"If at that age it doesn�t hurt to see an ex with your best
friend, just wait until you get a little older. It can and will
very easily cause problems within both the friendships and the new
relationship. "

what? most people i know GOT OVER this when they were 14.

Posted 01/15/07

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