An Account of a Long Distance Relationship

it can work as long as the two work at it, stay commeted, try and
visit ever so often and in the near future choose to make a
decision specially about living arrangements. i met my husband
online over 5 yrs ago he lived in ca. i lived in ga. we talked on
the phone everyday for a yr. and during that time got to know one
another sent each other gifts, cards, letters. then he came out to
see me then 6 months later i moved out to live with him and now
where ever we are we are together. so it can work out as long as u
are willing to take the consequences in hopes of the outlook.

i was in a long distance relationship for a year and it worked out
for as long as he loved me. would he still love me if we were
together? well, probably not. he got very consumed with his job
and making money, and in the end, i guess he found getting ahead
in life more important than me.

so of course i'm going to be weary if i run into another long
distance relationship, but i think what someone on here said is
true, if it's meant to be, it will be.

My current boyfriend & I have spent most of our relationship
long-distance and we've been together just over two years. He was
a freshman in college about an hour away when we met & I was a
junior in high school. We met very randomly (long story) but
somehow, despite the hour drive for both of us, we've made it
work. Everytime we saw each other, it was always so much fun. But
I'm not sure what it is like to go away to college and have your
boyfriend go to a different school. I think you can't be
discouraged if you don't get to see them one weekend or something.
Its good to talk every night either on the phone or online or
whatever. You actually might start to appreciate being away from
him if you are already spending a lot of time together. That is
how I feel now that I am home for the summer.

when i started dating my husband it was a ldr and right now it is
too since he is deployed. Its hard work but more then worth it. A
ldr is just like any other relationship if its meant to be then it
will work out. Thats my personal opinion though.

good article, my ex and i did some stuff as mentioned in the
article like playin pool on yahoo. mine situation was dated during
summer, same hometown, i went to college, a hour away but months
later he went to the navy and now he's in japan.

I am currently dating a guy from Tennessee (I live in Indiana).
We've never met, but we talk on the phone just about every night
before we go to bed. I'll be the first to admit that it's hard as
hell. But like so many other people have said; if you really want
it to work, then it will. You just have to put that effort in.

One of my bestfriends has been in a long distance relationship for
about 4 years now. It was an online relationship at first...but
they've met many times... and are doing very well.
I think it can work. But it's just not for everyone.

I've been in 2 LDRs. In the first one, I started going with a guy
i met in 11th grade. He moved an hour away a few months later. It
wasn't that bad, because we really didn't see each other that much
anyway, just at school mostly, and one or two times other than
that. And he went with me to both of my proms. We went out for a
year and 9 months, and by that time I was getting ready to
graduate, and I was just ready to move on I guess. (Come to find
out he had another girlfriend before he even met me and never
ended it with her, but that's beside the point lol cuz I ended it
with him before I knew 100% for sure. My friend had told me she
thought something was up, so that might've affected my decision a
bit) Anyway....now, 5 years later, I'm in another LDR. We met here
in NC (he was working here on a temporary worker's visa), and 6
months later his visa ran out so he had to return home to South
Africa. He left in November 2005, but we're still together, and
are hoping to get married soon. He's still there, but I was travel
to see him last summer for a couple of weeks. It's really hard to
be apart, especially knowing there's no way we can see one
another, because 7,000 miles is just way too far! It's gotten
easier, though, because at first I was sad and I cried every time
I got off the phone with him, but now I get sad sometimes, but not
a lot. Because phone cards are so expensive, we only talk once a
week. Lately I've been calling him twice a week, though. We email
each other a couple of times a week or so, so that helps, because
phone cards don't really give us enough time to say all that we
need to say, and it's so hard because there's an echo half the
time, so aggravating, I feel like I'm using a walkie-talkie, cuz
half the time he can't hear me! But anyway....what I want to say
is don't get discouraged if your relationship turns long distance!
You can make it work! You will both have to make some effort, and
you might not get to do the things other couples get to do. But
you might not have the same problems as other couples, either.
Other couples may spend too much time together and get clingy and
get into fights, whereas you and your s/o will appreciate the time
you have for one another much more, and you won't really see each
other enough to get clingy. You must have trust, communication,
patience, and a lot of love! Even if you can't see one another and
do things other couples do, you can still improvise, much like
this article said. You can do other things, also, it just takes
some creativity! Just don't get discouraged! If you really love
one another, you can get through anything, it will be so worth it
in the end! :)

where u st@y

Personally I don't think it can work, at least not for long, but
I'm a sceptic. I'm pretty sure that all the 'relationships' in
high school have broken up now that we've all moved on. Then again
I think a lot of the people involved ended the relationships
before they moved.

Im in a long distance relationship, had to move back to FL from
TN. I've been in FL for three months, and with my boyfriend for 10
months. (he lives in TN). I will be going back in a few weeks.

TIME GOES BY REALLLLLLLLLY SLOWLY and
it sucks so bad. Its not easy, its not fun, its hard and it sucks.


I don't want to be with anyone else in the world, and have
isolated myself because other guys drive me crazy with their
constant flirting.

Im GLAD to be going back to my man!!

I just recently had to move five hours away from my boyfriend. We
have only been dating for almost a year. But we have been great
buddies for almost three years. The reason that I had to move is
because my mom just passed away the day after my b-day, and my dad
is taking care of me. I really miss him but I get to see him this
Saturday. I can't wait. But we were talking about going to the
same college so we don't have to be that far away too long.

I completely have faith in true love. If it's meant to be distance
won't matter, it may put a strain on the relationship but, you'll
be able to make it through. Although I believe long distance is
too hard. My ex and I lived 4 hours apart for a year when he went
off to school (this isn't ultimately why we broke up) it was a
source of much stress, strain and fighting for us. Long distance
can be ok and help you to appreciate the other person more, but I
just don't think long distance should be prolonged too long. My
sister and her ex graduated in 2002 and her boyfriend and her went
to seperate colleges. 4 and a half years of distance finally drove
them apart last fall. Distance is made even more difficult when
you're going off to college and meeting new people, going to new
places and studying different subjects from your significant
other. This is partly why my sister and her boyfriend broke up;
all the distance, going months at a time without seeing each
other, different groups of friends, different hang outs, different
schedules, different studying interests it all becomes too much
difference and creates too much of a rift. The other person
becomes unable to comprehend why you study so much when they don't
have to and so on. So, if long distance is a must I just hope it's
not for too long, otherwise the odds aren't good.

i've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. he lives
two hours away from me and always has. i met him through a friend
of mine who went to college with me. she lives in the same town as
he does, two hours a day.
it is hard for us, because we live so far apart, but we talk on
the phone alot and see each other usually once a week. long
distance is hard, but it can work!

In about 2 weeks im moving to Virginia and my boyfriend is staying
her in North Carolina. I'll be gone for about 5 months and Im
really going to miss him!! Im thinking should I stay because I
really don't want to lose the best thing thats ever happened to me

im just trying out this long distance relationship thing. we
havent been dating long but were really close. ive used a few of
the tips given and it does give a good sense of comfort. jealousy
is hard to avoid but trust can play a good part in not being so
worried. i like the spread out time of seeing him it makes it a
lot more exciting when i get to see him again. plus i think
distance helps prevent an over clingy/push away relationship

...but you can make them work. I've been out of the country for
the past 4 months and only got to see my boyfriend over spring
break and we are still together. We also normally only get to see
each other on the weekends during the school year. It's just
really important to be considerate of the other person and we
always try and find little things to do for each other that keep
us strong and remind the other person how much we love them...it
will be 2 years in a few months and we are still going strong.

i have a lot of respect for anyone who manages to make a long
distance relationship work becuase i could never do it

who became one of my best friends, had an LDR throughout freshmen
year. he came soph-sen year, and they got married last summer
after we graduated.
on the other end of the spectrum, i met my ex through a
friend...and he lived in iowa. it only lasted a few months. oh
well.

My ex and I tried a long distance relationship when I was in my
senior year of high school and he was going into college. But
neither of us were ready for it...we were too young and naievee.
It's been a couple years and we're giving it another shot.
Hopefully all goes well!

Good article. A little short, but still good.