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Dating & Racism

It Isn't Always From the Other Side

Written by: A. Niranjan – Posted: Thu Feb 14th, 2008
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When I was a young girl, I grew up in a suburban, predominantly white community. As a child, I used to note that the color of my skin was darker than most of the other children in the classroom. I even remember literally eyeing the room, seat by seat, wondering what everyone's race was and how it differed from mine. Maybe the reason for my private visual surveys stemmed from the fact that I had recently come to the United States from Guyana, a country in South America where the common ethnicities are African and Indian. As a child, I didn't understand that other children in the room were Armenian, Turkish, Puerto Rican and so forth. I only saw different colors.

As I grew older and more comfortable within my own community, I became comfortable with being the only "Guyanese" girl. I didn't even mind explaining, multiple times, where it was and why I don't speak Spanish despite being from a South American country. Eventually, the little town I lived in began to diversify drastically as more and more minority families were moving into my area of north New Jersey.
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You know what I've been through similar drama as sasha9812 and
Dream_Gurl101. Friends and fam making me feel weird cuz I tend to
like white guys more than black guys. Luckily from me my folks
understand that I'm just open to going out with all kinds of guys.
Oh BTW this reminds me that I'm in the process of asking this one
white guy I like to prom with me. I'm praying for two thinigs:
1.)That he says yes most importanly.

&

2.)That if he does go with me that there is little to no drama
from his friends or anyone I know.
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I'm an African-American girl who moves alot (my dad is in the
Military) I always have lived in the suburbs and I had more
caucasian friends than black. This is my first time living in the
City, the majority of the people at my school are black. I feel a
bit unconfortable around them.
I am often teased by my African-American friends on how I "act
white" and I grew up mostly in suburbs.
And I have very few friends who dislike caucasians, which makes
me petty upset since I pretty musch gre up with caucasians.
I have dated caucasian guys and-again- have been made fun of. So
I guess I can understand how the majority of the people around are
a different race and social class than your own. But I'm glad that
I am this way. I'm moving back to a suburban area next year
anyways and I'm proud of it. There is nothing wrong with
hanging/growing up with a different race =)

I grew up in nyc and I have a LOT of Guyanese friends..in fact,
two of my exes were Guyanese! not once have I had to question
about Guyana..so its amazing to me that some people have never
even at least HEARD of it. Even though its in South America, I
personally consider it as an honorary caribbean island :-P the
customs are similar and so is the dialect..it's sad that we're in
the 21st century and some people are still so ignorant to base
opinions on race...I just dont see how a little bit of extra
melanin makes you "inferior"!
i am African American and i live in the deep south. yea it can get
pretty sketchy sometimes with caucasians toting rebel flags and
talking about shooting "niggers". i recently dated a white boy who
was only 2 months younger than me but in a lower grade. we had bee
unofficially together for about 2-3 months before he asked me out.
we had only been "together" for 2 weeks when his parents found out
and promptly terminated that relationship. we were both crushed
but continued to talk. his parents told him how they did not mind
but the rest of his family was very "old fashioned". his
grandfather still believed if you were black you should be working
the fields. i too have been called an Oreo for dating white boys,
talking white, and have more white friends than black. i just tune
it out because i am happy with my life the way it is and nothing
can change who i am or how i talk or who i talk to. =]
I know how you feel! Im from Guyana also. My mom is black and my
dad is indian. People always ask me if im supposed to be "latina"
or if i speak spanish since im from south america. I live in
California and it is almost impossible to find any guyanese that
live here.
i know how you feel i go to a school where perdomanetly there are
only whites i am mainly known as an oreo because of my caucasion
friends but it takes time and soon it all seems to fade away and
the race difference just seems to be another one of those things
you know what i mean