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Abrikos   , 46

from Clyo


10 Definitions of Taking it Slow

What does it mean to, “Take it slow”? When you are in a new relationship you might be tempted to go to the next level, but what if your significant other wants to slow things down? What does that mean? Does it mean the same thing to everyone? Check out 10 definitions of taking it slow.

Let’s still see other people: This may be more a fear of commitment than taking it slow. If your significant other wants to continue to see other people then there may be more going on there. If you are good with seeing other people for now and not getting into a heavy relationship then great, but if you are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right then you really need to clarify things.

Let’s wait on sex: Traditionally I think this is one of the main points of taking things slowly. One or both of you want to make sure that this relationship is right before jumping into bed. In this day in age with all of the diseases that you can catch from not being safe, it’s a good idea to know who you are sleeping with.

I want more romance: Another idea of taking it slow is that you want to be more old- fashioned and bring back the romance. There is nothing wrong with bringing a woman a flower or flowers. It’s sweet to just hold hands and spend some time getting to know each other. You can always speed things up if the time seems right to both of you, but it’s hard to go from sleeping together to just holding hands. Seems a bit backward.

Sleeping together with no sex: Some people think taking it slow is to not rush into sex, but sleeping in the same bed is fine. If this is fine with both parties then that’s great, but it might not be everyone’s idea of taking it slow. It takes a lot of trust to sleep with someone and not know what they are doing while you are sleeping. You might still want to know someone pretty well before you have a sleepover.

3-5 dates before becoming exclusive: To some taking it slow isn’t really as slow as you might think. If you are used to sleeping together on the first date I supposed waiting for a few more dates before you sleep together is taking slowly. Just make sure that you are both on the same page on the relationship. If she is pushing you to have sex and you want to wait so that you don’t mess things up, then let her know that.

I’m not that into you sexually: Of course no one is going to tell you this straight out. But it might be the reason behind wanting to take it slow. Especially with women, once they get to know a man better they will trust him enough to tell him what makes her tick in bed. If she is not blown away by you sexually at the beginning she may just want to ease into it a bit.

She’s not that into sex: Taking it slow could mean that she wants to be friends first and then if things progress she might be ready for sex later. Some women aren’t that into sex or they are really shy about their bodies and they want to make sure they can trust the guy thoroughly before getting naked with him.

You might be, “The One”: Sometimes when people meet someone so special that they start thinking that they might be “the one” for them then they might want to slow things down. You want to be sure if you think this might be the last person you ever sleep with. Rushing into things might spoil the romance of the whole courtship.

I want to get to know you better: Sex throws a whole new aspect into a relationship. Everything changes and instead of anticipating and being excited you’re all, been there-done that. If more people waited, we might have fewer divorces.

I don’t want to get hurt again: To some, having sex is a very emotional thing and for women especially this connection often leads to attachment. If you’ve jumped into the sack too quickly in past relationships and they just end in failure then taking it slow could just mean that this time I want things to be different. I don’t want to get hurt again. I want to be sure. This is the smart way to go in my opinion.