If you’ve decided to try sugar dating and haven’t made a profile yet, you’ll spend the first week sorting through profiles. Sites differ in how much sorting that takes and in how directly the profiles are written.
Nothing on a brand-new profile has been tested. No photograph has drawn a reply, and no line anybody wrote has been answered. The replies that come back in the first week are the only evidence a beginner has.
1. Secret Benefits
Members who have tried several sugar dating sites call Secret Benefits the most straightforward, and they describe the connections as lasting companionship. Writing a first profile there puts it on the most established sugar dating platform, with the most active membership reading it.
For a beginner, that means less to work out. The people reading a new profile there are looking for the same kind of connection, so your first message can start with a line the other person wrote. The first week’s reading also gives a new writer plenty to copy from.
2. SugarDaddy.com
The first evening on SugarDaddy.com is spent reading. It has the largest active member base.
Reading 20 profiles in a row is the fastest way to learn what belongs in a new one. The pages written with care announce themselves quickly. Each names something the person does, on a Saturday or after work. A membership that size also brings replies from people whose profiles you haven’t read yet. Open those profiles before answering.
3. Seeking
Seeking is a name most people have heard before they look for a site, and its profiles come from people who arrived through general dating as well as sugar dating. Sugar babies there word their profiles carefully. A beginner will also see profiles that say nothing about sugar dating at all.
Readers spend more of the first week figuring out what each person is there for. A profile that says so in its own first two lines gets answered by the people who came for that.
4. SugarDaddyMeet
SugarDaddyMeet calls itself selective, and its rules bar connections that never leave the site as well as plans meant to be short. Fewer conversations start there than on the larger platforms, and the ones that do move slowly.
Beginners end up with a handful. A conversation that does start can go on for weeks, and a reply can be slow to arrive. Members there report accounts suspended with no reason given, and profiles they flagged as fake left up afterward, so report a fake profile when you see one and keep reading the rest.
5. SugarBook
Members on SugarBook write what they expect at the start, often before sending a second message. Beginners learn how these conversations usually start by reading a page of profiles. The crowd there skews younger than on the other sites here, and a first message can repeat what the profile already said.
What to Put in a New Sugar Baby Profile
Write in plain words what you enjoy doing with another person and what you bring to the table. Say you listen well and show up, because a dating profile that names what the writer brings is rated more attractive than one that only names what the writer wants. A list of adjectives gives a reader nothing to answer. Decide what good company means before writing about it, so it is easier to recognize on somebody else’s page. Most people read it for company, and many also enjoy the mentoring side.
Use current photographs. In an online dating profile, a reader forms an impression from the pictures before reading a line. At a first meeting, the person across the table then looks like the page that got them there. Current photographs also confirm that the page belongs to the person in it. Every reader asks that silently.
A new page needs two photographs:
- One looking at the camera, the kind that draws the most replies.
- One of you doing something you do regularly, so the other person has a question to ask.
Both should be among the first a reader sees.
A public page should not include your full name or home address, and it should not give anyone a way to reach you outside the site. Pick a username that doesn’t reveal where you work.
Writing the First Message
On a website for finding sugar daddies, your first message appears next to the profile it came from.
About 3 in 10 matches on big dating platforms never send a single message. A message that names something specific from the other person’s profile is answered more than half the time. It has to be something only that profile could have told you.
Ask a question. A question in a first message roughly doubles the chance of getting an answer, and people who ask more questions early in a conversation are better liked by the end.
Keep the whole thing between 40 and 90 words, and send it while the page is still open. Messages sent within a few hours of finding a profile get the highest response rate.
How to Know if a Sugar Daddy Is Real
Someone running the same conversation with several people at once will change a job or a schedule without noticing. Read a week of messages together, and the change is easy to see.
Most people expect to meet in person eventually, so the lies people tell on a profile stay small. A profile with no specific detail leaves a reader nothing to check later. A reply that answers a different question from the one asked was written before the question arrived.
Say early that a first meeting has to be short, and watch what happens next. A sugar baby who spent years on these sites describes a first refusal being accepted in full. Every refusal after it came more easily.
A person who talks about destiny or fate before a first meeting is running a rehearsed line. So is one who explains early that a job keeping them away from home is the reason a meeting has to wait.
Before a first meeting, send a friend a link to the profile and the plan for the evening, and share your location while you are out. People who say their expectations out loud before they meet report feeling safer than they did in ordinary dating.
Your First Five Messages
Write the profile before opening any site. Put it on Secret Benefits, the most active platform of its kind. Send five messages, and in each one, name something from the page you’re sending it to. Then read what comes back and see if it answers what you asked. One week of that is enough to decide where the second week goes.